January 31, 2016

No Work Life Balance for SAHMs

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Talk about work/life balance seems to flood social media, business discussions, and blog posts.  At one time, I was in a position where I was able to think about my own work/life balance.  I've come to the realization those days are over ... at least temporarily.  Nearly everything I do is life, but life is work as a stay at home mom, so there is no work/life balance.

Most days, there's no balance at all.

January 17, 2016

Great Resolutions to Make in the New Year

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It's a little late for New Years resolutions right?  Well, that's what I do ... I never think about the things I want to change in the new year, until I'm already in the new year.  New Year's Eve prompts me to start thinking about changes.  Generally, I just find that I'm too busy dealing with Holidays, family, and end of the year stuff to think about it before then.  So, here are 3 things I want to do this year:

January 10, 2016

16 Strange, Sad Ways My Pregnancies Differed

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I had always thought I'd be a mom and when the time came to start a family, I couldn't have been more excited.  When I got pregnant the first time, I boasted to my husband that I felt as though I could be pregnant for the rest of my life.  Then, we decided to have another baby and the second pregnancy was drastically different from the first.  Let's go through the list of ways my pregnancies differed and see if you can relate.

1) Disorganized.  With our first, I had a notebook made up right away that separated documents, OB receipts, sonogram pictures, etc.  This time around, I had forgotten when I had ultrasounds, had to research payments, and even temporarily misplaced sonogram pictures.

December 27, 2015

How To Irritate a Woman About Her Over Due Pregnancy

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We'd had our hospital bag packed for about a week, baby's car seat in the car a couple days before, meals were in the freezer.  Our due date came and went.  I was in shock as our first was born on her due date, so this was highly unexpected.

We had out of town family who scheduled to be in town for their Christmas just two weeks after the baby was due.  If that wasn't stressful enough, a late baby meant he was going to be that much younger while the family tries to gather for visits and gift exchange.  I wasn't even happy that he was only going to be 2 or 3 weeks old at the time.

The stress kept piling on as conversations about extra ultrasound scans and possible medical interventions like inductions were looming on the horizon.  To some of you, extra scans and inductions aren't scary, but to me, the thought of medical intervention for a natural and, thus far, healthy pregnancy were just frightening.  I had a completely natural birth the first time around with no medical intervention, aside from being forced to an IV at the hospital because I couldn't convince hubby that having a baby at home was safe.  So, the idea that I might need medical interventions with baby #2 didn't sit well with me and really added to my stress.  The pressure was on to get this baby out before they messed with me.

A couple days past due, the stress really got to me as we began receiving messages or seeing people who felt like they had to ask about the baby.  Even after dropping my daughter off at school the first time after Thanksgiving, I had comments and questions from no less than 4 moms who knew I was overdue.  Let me tell you, I made it to the car with some dignity before bawling my eyes out.

Things not to say to a mom (or her partner) whose baby is overdue:

December 13, 2015

How to Be More Careful About Offering Parenting Advice

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I’ve spent a good deal of time considering how to write this post.  I could have posted it from so many angles.  I began a long post blasting people for criticizing my parenting.  I started, yet another, explaining the reasons we don't need to apologize for how we raise our child.
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I hadn't realized, when deciding to have children, that I was entering some sick, dog-eat-dog world of parenting.  I’ve been disturbed by some of the judgment my husband and I have received regarding the way we parent our child.  We’ve been questioned about how we handle even silly things (like "Why do you still give her a sippy cup?" when kiddo was two and we didn't want her walking around the house spilling drinks) and have been openly called “strict” parents.  We've been threatened with “she’s going to feel like she can’t talk to you.”  All this from parents we believe are far too lenient and have, seemingly, no expectations of their children.  I'm even more bothered that the worst of it comes from people closest to us.

November 29, 2015

Will Deleting Your Facebook App Make You Happy?

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I was inspired by a blog post by an author who deleted her Facebook app from her phone.  So inspired, that I posted a quick blurb to my friends and family to get my contact information if they ever wanted something from me quickly.  I promptly deleted my Facebook app from my iPhone.

The first morning I woke up and grabbed my phone out of habit.  I love spending a few minutes catching up in the morning before hopping out of bed to begin the morning rush.  I was lost.  So, I played my rounds of Words With Friends that were waiting for me and then got out of bed.

Luckily, I chose to delete the Facebook app the night before my daughter and I were leaving for a 3-day Disney trip.  In the 3 days, I was so busy and exhausted that I barely had time to think about checking Facebook even for a moment during the day.  I had expected serious social withdrawals, but I hadn't had the time for them.

November 15, 2015

What's in my Hospital Bag? Plus, a FREE Printable Hospital Bag Checklist

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Preparing for baby usually includes packing a hospital bag, unless you're one of the women I'm jealous of who get to stay home to deliver their baby.  I want to "accidentally" deliver my baby at home, but hubby isn't into that sort of thing, so I'm forced to be prepared for the hospital.  The first time around, I went by the standard hospital bag checklist, and I wasn't concerned with much.  This time around, I want to feel a little extra pampered and have a few special items to try to give myself a boost from the get-go.  Plus, I don't want some of the boring (or unhealthy) hospital grade items.  So, let's get to it.  What's in my hospital bag?

November 01, 2015

8 Things To Do Before You Have Your Baby

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As the time gets nearer to my little man's arrival, I keep thinking about all the things I need to prepare.  As I recall, there's a lot to do to prepare for a newborn, and the last thing I need is to NOT be ready now that I have a preschooler with schedules we have to keep.  Life is going to get interesting without scrambling to get everything done and together at the last minute, or worse, after baby arrives.  As a somewhat experienced mom, I want to help you be more prepared for your new baby's arrival, too.

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October 18, 2015

4 Tools to Engage Early Writing and Artistic Interests

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Do you want your child to have an interest in writing and/or drawing?  It's easy to foster or instill this interest at an early age with very little effort or monetary investment.  My daughter turns 4 soon, and has begun writing words on her own.  Here are the 4 tools I suggest having to instill early writing and artistic interests:

October 04, 2015

Confessions From a Mom Afraid to Breastfeed Baby

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I consider myself intelligent and sufficiently educated.  I know the laundry list of stated benefits to breastfeeding.  I know it's the best.  But, I don't want to.

I'm scared.

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I've been down that path before with my first and it took me about 8 months to finally throw in the towel.  Everything I had known and believed about breastfeeding hadn't prepared me for the fact that my daughter wasn't handling dairy or soy in my diet.  And we didn't figure that out right away.  The doctors kept blaming it on colic or reflux, but medicines and passing the 6 month mark never alleviated the hell we were going through.  At the time, I didn't have knowledge of how many food intolerances I had, so it was hard to suspect any for her.