May 04, 2015

To the Mom with the Bluetooth Headset Who Judged Me for Being on the Phone

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I was struggling one morning dealing with being sick but forcing myself to get ready for an Easter event with our playgroup for my daughter.  I had been sick and sluggish for weeks and today was no different.  Except that this day, I had to put on my big girl panties, try to do my hair, force myself to look alive, visit a grocery store, and make it to our Easter event on time.  My daughter needed this day out of the house to play with her friends at the park, and I needed her to run out some of her energy without needing me every two seconds.

I'd waited a week for lab results, knowing they were going to show I needed an increase in meds.  I'd been extra sluggish and lacked motivation to do more than sleep.  I was a walking zombie, which I knew wasn't good for the baby I had recently found out I was going to have.  (Yes, this is also how I'm announcing my second pregnancy to my readers.  I was on the phone back and forth with doctor's offices trying to make immediate appointments and waiting for call backs on questions I had.  And, while I was doing my hair, my father in law called.  I had to let it go to voice mail, otherwise I was never going to get out the door in time to pick up what we needed at the store for the party.

By the time we arrived at the park for our event, I was tired, frazzled, and was still waiting to get things cleared away for my med increase.  My daughter had spent the morning crying and being at the park with her friends wasn't as much relief from the dramatics as I had hoped.

Finally, she was playing on the playground and I noticed her making friends with a girl, slightly older and not much bigger.  I was amazed and impressed that my daughter was actually making friends on her own... and not with a girl in our playgroup.  I was somewhat relieved as I watched her follow her around giving me a few minutes of peace as I continued to wait on hold.  Then I watched this new little girl take a mis-step, slip, and land on her bottom.  She got up and chased down my daughter to whine at her like it was her fault.  I was annoyed, but I let it go when I heard my daughter say "It's okay, it happens."  (Darn right, I didn't raise a wuss!)

April 30, 2015

Why I'm Still Proud of the Baltimore Mom Controlling Her Rioting Son

I admit two things when I saw the video of this Baltimore mother who was angry that her son was involved in the rioting.  The first, is that I was cheering her on, because I was glad to see that at least one mother was taking responsibility for her child's actions.  Secondly, I was a little perturbed that she was repeatedly hitting him.  Still, some of the remarks on social media and blog posts regarding the instance hit a nerve with me.

I sat down and read a post from a mom blogger who believed that we shouldn't be applauding this mother for her abusing her son.  This particular blogger also quoted another blogger on how a "peaceful parent" would handle their child in the midst of rioting.  Further, she states that America needs more "bleeding hearts" like herself.  Before I express my opinions on this matter, you can read up on the post about the so-called "abusive mother."

My rebuttal is as follows:

April 13, 2015

Children's Clothing I Can't Stand!

I honestly don't know my inspiration for this post ... I was sitting down relaxing on the couch during kiddo's quiet time and I began thinking about clothes she would need for preschool.  Somehow, that turned into thinking about all the styles I've seen in the last few years that I have found absolutely atrocious.  So, I thought it would be funny to share my thoughts on children's clothing styles that I can't stand.  Read on, and don't forget to leave me your comments ... I'm certain you will have plenty to say.

Firstly, when I began seeing Matilda Jane pop up, I was absolutely sickened by their styles.  My list is TOPPED by the pants that make me think of clown pants.

You put your kid in these:

Matilda Jane Legume Leggings
Matilda Jane Legume Leggings (photo source matildajaneclothing.com)
I see a clown costume:

April 06, 2015

More Simple Blogging Tips for Beginners

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I previously wrote 10 blogging tips for beginners.  It appeared that there are still plenty of people just starting their blogging journeys or those struggling to get readership.  I'm no expert and I'm not making much money, but I've been at it long enough to have learned a few things I've found invaluable, so I would love to share more tips for new or struggling bloggers.  Perhaps in the near future, I can start sharing slightly more advanced tips to push you to the next level.

March 09, 2015

DIY: Make Your Own Dry Erase Chore Chart (or get a free printable toddler chore chart)

diy create dry erase chore chart or free printable

After dealing with a bit of behavior issues with my three year old, I was feeling run down and enslaved.  By the time my husband came home from work, I was at the end of my rope with the kid.  I simply wanted to run from the house to return when she went off to college.  Sure, I'd miss the good times, but I wasn't feeling like there were too many of them.

Finally, I'd had enough and knew something had to change.  I decided that I no longer wanted to hear "I want" and the ensuing tantrums when things didn't go her way.  From now on, she needed to earn things.  I discussed with my husband my idea that she needed to earn the coins she was taking to bed every night, and we decided that we would tie in her behavior to learn to be responsible and respectful of us.  Most importantly, I wanted a FREE chore chart that I could customize.  I admit, I don't like paying for things if I don't have to.  So, I created a chore chart that I could print at home and turned it into a dry erase chart, seeing as how I'm in love with making dry erase activity books.

March 02, 2015

February IZEA Income from Blogging and Social Media

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Once again, I want to share my income statement from IZEA.  If you haven't seen it, I previously posted my blogging and social media income for January using IZEA, as well as sharing some tips about the site.

This month, I wanted to show you more than just my earnings.  If you read my first post, you'll remember that I currently have only taken twitter status update opportunities.  I've recently also bumped up bidding to $5.00 per tweet with 4254 twitter followers.  I've earned $21.00 in February, and most of these bids were done in January.

February 23, 2015

What a BFF is to Me

Ivy and her BFF at my baby shower in 2011
Ivy and her BFF at baby shower in 2011
What is a BFF to you?  I struggle with friendships and I sometimes feel even more clueless as to what a BFF is.  As children, we have our BFFs and maintaining our friendships is pretty easy, aside from learning about real friends.  As adults, maintaining our friendships is so much more work because we have to balance work, husband, children, home, pets, and our own hobbies or interests.  Life with a kid, hubby, monthly racing hobby, and an autoimmune disorder that kicks my butt takes a lot of time and energy, making it very difficult for me to connect with anyone, much less long term.  I have a hard time understanding my own life with this autoimmune disorder, and I can't blame anyone for not sticking around to figure it out with me if they hardly know me.  But, when I really sit down to think about it, I realize a best friend isn't the same for everyone.  Our individual personalities each require something different to fulfill our needs and make us happy.  We may have several BFFs during our lifetimes, while others have a BFF for life.  For me, a best friend is someone that I share a long history with.  She knows who I was and who I am today.

February 16, 2015

Blogging & Social Media: January Income with IZEA

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I'm only just starting to get used to making any sort of "income" from my blogging efforts.  Generally, I don't get paid much, if anything from sponsored posts (I'm usually happy simply receiving free items to review) and I rarely get people to click affiliate links and make purchases.  I'm okay with that, but I do like to generate some sort of income, even if it's just to help us pay for some hobbies or buy a couple presents throughout the year.

I found IZEA offered a bit of extra income while using my blog and well-set social media channels to make bids on available projects.  Mostly, I've been bidding on paid tweets, but Izea offers so much more!

To make the most of Izea, you need to link as many social media (and blog) outlets as you have.  Once you're set up, you'll notice a list of available projects open for bidding in the "Sponsorship" area.  You place bids on open items and occasionally you may receive a direct offer, which doesn't count against your 3 bids for the month.  A basic (free) membership allows you to bid on 3 projects per month, but you have two paid options which give you unlimited bids every month.  Initially, I remained on the free plan, but once I accrued more than $12 in my account, I switched to the $1 per month plan.  This gives me unlimited bids, and lowers the payout threshold to $50 (versus $100 threshold on the free plan).

Let me show you my January earnings, because I think seeing concrete numbers puts things into perspective, quickly.

February 09, 2015

Spend Less Time at the Dinner Table Without Sacrificing Quality Family Time

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Photo Courtesy: coolclips.com

The thing about parenting is that you're always navigating your way around life like it's an endless adventure.  Adventure?  Crap, that sounds almost nice.  I guess we can call it an adventure, like a choose your own adventure book, blended with a bit of gaming terminology.  We are always going from one quest to another.  It's not always fun or entertaining, but I suppose there's always the reward for defeating each level, right?  So, we have different levels and each stage of our kid's life is like beating a different boss.

I know most kids spend too much time playing at the table at some point or another, and I feel for you if you're in one of those moments.

Most recently, we were working on the stage where we get the tiny cranky boss to feed herself independently.  For weeks on end, we've been planted at the table for what seems like hours unless we help the kid-boss by feeding her ourselves.  She starts out strong, feeding herself, then becomes needy and depends on us to finish the job.  She would stop, then look at me and ask "can you feed me?" in a super-sweet tone, following up with "I'm not a baby."  I fell for it one too many times and found myself enslaved to her and her utter laziness.  It's tiresome (and annoying) being stuck at the table long after you've finished your meal.  The dishes sit in the sink and could be cleaned off, but instead, I'm spending the next 20 minutes feeding a kid that's completely capable of doing it herself.

Even more recently, when I asked her why she needed me to feed her, she responded with "because I love you."

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February 02, 2015

There ARE Winners and Losers: Competition is Healthy

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My husband relayed a recent article to me about a girl's basketball coach who was suspended temporarily after his team ran up the score.  On the way home from a doctor's appointment the other day, my daughter began to whine that she didn't win her game on the iPad.  Twice, as a matter of fact, she responded equally disappointed that she didn't win.  I explained to her that it was okay that she didn't win and that it just meant she had to try harder next time.  She happily set off trying again.

After those words, I began to think about the kids these days who are being taught to play sports in gym without a ball.  Or where teams aren't expected to win, but to just have fun.  Until now, I'd never had reason to think too hard about it as it applied to my own child.  But in her recent upset, I'm pretty sure I conveyed a message I believe ALL children should learn.  Real life doesn't adhere to "there are no winners or losers."  My thoughts:

1) You may never win at everything.
2) Losing simply means trying again and striving to do better.
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